I was sitting at the bus stop next to a girl I knew today. The setting sun was shining in our eyes.
She missed the bus to talk to me.
I told her the story only 2 others have heard.
And I was happy. She felt the way I did, and agreed that what I did 2 Wednesdays ago was indeed good.
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I was sitting at the Deck opposite a girl I just knew tonight. It was so late we were the last ones there and the lights were being switched off.
And talking to her, the humanistic view suddenly hit me very hard.
We psychologist study very hard, and we've improved so much in our field of knowledge.
I could look at a stranger and tell you many things you would not know just from watching how s/he behaves.
But talking to this girl, I realised I could read into a few of her gestures and understand her better... but there were thousands of other subtle things that I just could not comprehend. Such is the complexity of humans and human interaction.
Praise the Lord.
I shall stop thinking so much. While the conscious mind cannot handle all the info, I shall train my sub-conscious to read things I cannot see and understand things I cannot read. Neo-Freudians, here I come.
i think sometimes, it is easier to understand strangers because we can simply watch them from a third-person pov, rather than having to simultaneously having to interact with them. I read somewhere that most of what a person says is not conveyed through words, it's in the body language. It's just that we have become so reliant on speech as communication.
ReplyDeleteYou're right. When I watch a stranger, I'm given a few cues only to work with and I can take my time to analyze every single one carefully.
ReplyDeleteWhen you're talking to someone for like... 3 hours... it's a different thing. Hahaha. Flooding the brain. And I still needed to work myself out too!
I learnt in health psychology that interaction, whether you feel like it or not, when compared to not interacting is good for you. I think i should spend like a week flooding my system by not being alone at all. Kekekeke.
I read somewhere that we are disinclined to change our instinctive first impressions of people. We continue viewing them through that filter unless they otherwise prove us very wrong.
ReplyDeleteI don't think I could do that for a week, too much for me!
Probably true. It's hard to change our mind. It's tiring.
ReplyDeleteI dunno if i'll survive. Just wanted to try.
We like to pigeonhole things, view things in a binary way as opposed to having a lot of grey area. That's where things like stereotypes come in, I suppose.
ReplyDeleteTry next week! Occupy every single minute with somebody; be it on the bus or walking to class or sleeping. Who knows, could be the next big thesis topic ;)
Could be the first suicide case. Hahahaaha. Got my mail?
ReplyDeleteor homicide; depends.
ReplyDeletewhich one? the one at 1.46am?