...regarding a suggestion to let members of the opposite sex join the group.
Here's how it went:
Anonymous Single #1: Of course we should let ladies in. We're a group meant to help singles cope with their circumstances, and women form half the number of singles out there- maybe even more if statistics are true about there always there being more women than men.
Anonymous Single #2: And even more so if it's true that women are more prone to emotional insecurities than men.
*a few nods all around*
Anonymous Group Coordinator: Yes I see your point guys, but I'm afraid that such an action will undermine the very nature and purpose of the group. This group is for us singles to cope with the difficulty of being single in a society that says you need love to live: the group itself is not the solution to the problem.
Anonymous Single #1: What do you mean? If this group does not help solve the problem, what are we doing here? Alcoholics Anonymous helps people solve a problem of alcohol abuse. We're helping people solve a problem of being single.
Anonymous Single #3: Is being single really a problem like society makes us out to be? Come on, look at us- there really is nothing wrong with us! But we're seen as abnormal just because we're happy and single in a society that thinks the two can never be together.
Anonymous Group Coordinator: Here's my concern. What we have here is a good group that is comfortable with each other and we can openly share our struggles. But bringing in ladies would change the dynamics of the group. When we hear a brother's struggles here, we empathize with him and encourage him. But what would happen if a lady comes and shares how lonely she feels every night when she returns home alone? We'd empathize, because some of us also do feel the same way quite often as we have shared, but then we'll think we can help her solve the problem and ask her out for a date.
Anonymous Single #3: And then we'll lose 2 members of the group at one time when they get together.
*murmuring and concerned looks all around*
Anonymous Group Coordinator: I'm not saying getting attached is bad, in the same way being single should not be bad, it's a choice for us to make. But let's not make this group a dating agency. We're trying to resist the societal pressure to feel different just because we choose not to get attached at this point of time in our lives. The goal of this group is not to get us all attached.
(That was the last meeting that we saw Anonymous Single #1. Some jokingly said that they saw him attending a SDU event.)
Here's how it went:
Anonymous Single #1: Of course we should let ladies in. We're a group meant to help singles cope with their circumstances, and women form half the number of singles out there- maybe even more if statistics are true about there always there being more women than men.
Anonymous Single #2: And even more so if it's true that women are more prone to emotional insecurities than men.
*a few nods all around*
Anonymous Group Coordinator: Yes I see your point guys, but I'm afraid that such an action will undermine the very nature and purpose of the group. This group is for us singles to cope with the difficulty of being single in a society that says you need love to live: the group itself is not the solution to the problem.
Anonymous Single #1: What do you mean? If this group does not help solve the problem, what are we doing here? Alcoholics Anonymous helps people solve a problem of alcohol abuse. We're helping people solve a problem of being single.
Anonymous Single #3: Is being single really a problem like society makes us out to be? Come on, look at us- there really is nothing wrong with us! But we're seen as abnormal just because we're happy and single in a society that thinks the two can never be together.
Anonymous Group Coordinator: Here's my concern. What we have here is a good group that is comfortable with each other and we can openly share our struggles. But bringing in ladies would change the dynamics of the group. When we hear a brother's struggles here, we empathize with him and encourage him. But what would happen if a lady comes and shares how lonely she feels every night when she returns home alone? We'd empathize, because some of us also do feel the same way quite often as we have shared, but then we'll think we can help her solve the problem and ask her out for a date.
Anonymous Single #3: And then we'll lose 2 members of the group at one time when they get together.
*murmuring and concerned looks all around*
Anonymous Group Coordinator: I'm not saying getting attached is bad, in the same way being single should not be bad, it's a choice for us to make. But let's not make this group a dating agency. We're trying to resist the societal pressure to feel different just because we choose not to get attached at this point of time in our lives. The goal of this group is not to get us all attached.
(That was the last meeting that we saw Anonymous Single #1. Some jokingly said that they saw him attending a SDU event.)
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